Planning a wedding is stressful. You not only have to plan the wedding itself but the celebration afterward and the honeymoon – all of which can feel like a full-time job. You have so much going on that it constantly feels like your plate is full, and it can make it so that everything your partner says and does is annoying. However, does that mean that you should call the wedding off and run away?
Pre-wedding jitters are perfectly normal. When you’re feeling stressed out, try to figure out if you’re stressed about the wedding, about getting married in general, or if you’re having real questions about your relationship. In other words, try to figure out if you have real pre-wedding anxiety or if you have real concerns about your relationship.
Planning a wedding is difficult – especially when you’re trying to please everyone. Most people haven’t had to plan such a big and important party such as weddings, and since your wedding day is an important day, you want everything to be perfect. No wonder you’re feeling anxious and your nerves are all over the place!
Signs of Pre-wedding Jitters
Having Problems Eating – you might often feel like you have “butterflies” in your stomach when anxious and feeling nervous. You might also find that you have no appetite. It’s important that you eat for energy and strength.
Having Trouble Sleeping – Anxiety over your wedding can bring racing thoughts that can tend to come forth when you’re lying in the dark, trying to fall asleep. Try finding some sleeping sounds that you can listen to when you’re having those racing thoughts to drown them out. Alternatively, try doing some deep breathing when you’re in bed and focus on relaxing your muscles.
Trouble Concentrating – When there are many things on your mind, you tend to have a hard time focusing on one thing at a time. If you find this happening to you, try to focus on what you’re currently doing for short bursts of time. If you have any distracting thoughts come up, write them down and think about them after you’re done with the task at hand.
Becoming Short-Tempered and Irritable – Recognize that when you’re feeling this way that it’s anxiety and take a few deep breaths before you speak or react next. Try speaking slowly; this will help keep your body calm.
Preoccupation with Details – Make a checklist of things that need to be done for your wedding and go over those details with someone close to you (i.e., your partner). If you can, turn this list over to a trusted person so that it’s off your plate.
Now that you know some of the signs of pre-wedding jitters, what can you do to calm your nerves? Below we’ve compiled a list of some of the best things that you can do to calm down in stressful wedding planning:
Use CBD Gummies
Cannabidiol (CBD) offers many benefits to users, and studies have shown that it is able to treat a wide variety of issues. CBD doesn’t contain THC, which gives people a sense of being “high,” instead, CBD is designed to help you chill out when you’re faced with anxiety or stress.
Studies have shown that CBD can promote neurogenesis, or in simpler terms, the creation of new brain cells. While we don’t know much about CBD and the effectiveness of it, we do know that users of CBD gummies have reported feeling like a flower on a sunny day.
So, why should you use CBD gummies instead of other CBD products? Gummies are portable meaning that you can take them with you to school, work, or anywhere else where you might need a boost. What’s more, is that gummies are more socially acceptable to pop a couple of gummies in your mouth in social situations than it is to pull out a vape pen. Finally, gummies can be vitamin-infused, healthy, and most of all, tasty!
Spend Time with Your Partner
Take a couple of hours to hang out with your partner – go out to dinner, for a walk, or spend a weekend together getting pampered. No matter what you do, remember to avoid talking about the wedding as much as possible. The time that you spend together should be as stress-free and relaxing as possible.
Look at Old Photos
Spend time reflecting on photos that you and your partner have taken together over the years. This is a great way to refocus your mind on the good things that have and will happen, rather than the scary, stressful tasks ahead.
Talk to Friends and Family
If you’re having a hard time dealing with your pre-wedding jitters no matter what you try, speak to family and friends who have gotten married before. They might have great tips that you can try to help you relax and help you feel reassured that your feelings are valid.
Exercising is a great way to relieve the tension that is building up in your body. You don’t have to go to the gym for this; you can take a walk, ride a bike, or go swimming at the beach. As long as you’re moving, your mind will float away from the issues at hand and to a relaxing place.
There are plenty of meditation tactics that you can do to help you unwind and relax. You can look up meditation techniques or even watch YouTube videos to get you started. Yoga and meditation are a great way to remove your mind from the stressors that are living there and get back to yourself and how you’re feeling. Breathing exercises can help too.
Talk with Your Partner
If you have specific concerns about what it will be like when you’re married, talk to your partner. Together you can come up with a way to address them and relieve your mind from fretting over them. Remember that marriage is a partnership, so work together to figure out answers to your hardest questions.
Remember that the most memorable and best weddings are the ones that don’t go exactly as planned. It doesn’t mean that your marriage is a failure; it’s just life. Laugh about the mistakes, brush it off, and enjoy your wedding day!
Article Written by Kim Torres at Sunday Scaries